Lessons learned...

I was in Lutzen for a wedding over the past weekend. The vacation was both an educational and spiritual one for me for a lot of different reasons.

The first thing I learned was that you get an opportunity to reeducate yourself on how to love in a relationship with every wedding that you go to. Plus it never hurts to try and take away something new as well. The wedding I was at this weekend the reeducation I got to enjoy was "Forgiveness". Overall this is something I - and forgive my seeming lack of modesty - feel that I do very well... On little things. On larger thing I am really good at holding onto grudges until they boil over and make a huge mess.

The hard part of it is letting go of what ever caused you to be upset in the first place. That takes a lot of practice to achieve that sort of balance. It really boils down to giving up being right even when you know that you are. Sometimes I am so right about something and the other person thinks they are too, the only payoff from us being so right about everything is that it introduces stress and strain into the relationship. These are not solid foundation blocks to build love and happiness with.

So I challenge you - my readers. The next time your friend or partner or family member or what ever does something that just makes you madder than hell. Let it go. Say to yourself that does not bother me and move on past it. The truth is this what is upsetting you is not the incident itself, it's the story attached to that incident and all the pain and suffering you have tied to it. The moment is just the moment and it has came and went. after that the only thing causing suffering is all the things you make it mean.

Enough of that...

The second thing I learned this weekend was that nothing in this world will make you appreciate your own bed more than sleeping in a hotel/cabin bed..

It never occurred to me how uncomfortable it would be to sleep with my feet hanging off the bed until I had to do it for a couple nights.

Finally I must say how beautiful the wedding was this weekend. Lots of good family and friends to have fun with. It was a lot of fun staying with Marens family and getting into trouble with them. Everyone was dressed to the 9's for the wedding. The ceremony could not have gone better. Bianca did a knock out job on the decorations. The party was great, the food was great. The actually served breakfast for dinner. At first I couldn't believe it. I thought Bianca had gone off her rocker. As dinner approached I was really getting in the mood for it though. One of those deals where you are thinking about a food for a couple of days and you think you will explode if you don't get that food. Now that the meal has come and gone I declare Bianca and Ken Visionaries for their Breakfast for dinner. With the cocktails beforehand and and breakfast after it was a lot like going out for drinks and then heading to Perkins or Denny's late night.

The night ended with a great bonfire on the lake shore. I took a little bit of time and ran off by myself right to the waters edge and looked at stars and watched the tides come in for a bit. Yes, Lake Superior does have tides that come in and go out. That was really cool. I think I need to go to the ocean now...

Later Days,
Ken